Part 1 of 3
The What Ifs.
I am pretty sure you have asked yourself this question at least at one point in your life. Usually the What Ifs first tend to pop up when you are about to decide on something and are uncertain of the outcome or it is something that has always crossed your mind but you didn't risk making it happen. Planning a vacation - What if we try going to someplace else other than the usual, would it be fun? Trying to be sweet - What if I hold her hand now, would she mind? Trying to be smooth - What if she doesn't give me her number, what am I going to say next? Building your career - What if I took a risk and joined a smaller company but has a lot of growth, would I be successful?
It is a lingering question that haunts you if you never decide to actually do things. Probably you have that fear of; rejection, disappointment, confrontation, getting your heart broken, shattered hopes, the fear of losing someone dear to you, or the fear of failure.
To quote the greatest basketball player of all time, Michael Jordan - "I've missed more than 9000 shots in my career, lost almost 300 games, 26 times I've been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I failed over and over and over again in my life, and that is why I succeed. Most of us make decisions based on numbers. How many times did it work before? How many times has it failed? If the success rate is higher, then we have the courage to face the What Ifs and just go for it. But for some of us, we tend to be more careful. If it has failed once, we don't want to make the same mistake, or if it has never been tried, we don't want to risk it.
The What Ifs can never guarantee a favorable outcome. It can go either way. It may be for the best or be at it's worst. So how do we deal with the What Ifs, if we don't know what's going to happen next? Would you still risk it or play it safe?
One thing is for sure, the What Ifs will always be there if you don't make your move and face whatever outcome it brings.
Part Two - What Might Have Beens
Part Three - If Onlys